Research has shown that 39% of men confess their love for a woman in the first month that they see each other. However, these romantic impulses do not mean that the relationship is going to be strong. What’s more, experts have revealed a series of men’s actions that can lead to sincere affection while also signaling that the couple might not last very long.
We’ve done some research of our own to find out the criteria that can help you understand whether your relationship is doomed to fail or whether it will last forever. Let’s take a look at them.
Violent Displays
A person who is violent toward you, strangers, loved ones, and even harmless animals are one of the brightest red flags in the book. It proves that they have not developed a healthy way to cope with and channel their emotions, and sometimes, violent displays can be an indicator that your potential partner has a lack of empathy for others.
Drug Addiction and Alcoholism
Drinking until inebriation several times a week or drinking daily can be a big indicator of a drinking problem. Reliance on substances to make it through the day, week, or through some of the tougher times in life is quite concerning and is something that you should definitely try to avoid in a partner.
If drugs or alcohol are negatively impacting your partner’s life, whether it manifests in their health, work, or relationships, they could very well be addicted and need serious health. What’s more, if your partner is relying on substances to help them make it through the week, day, or through tough situations, it usually means that they do not know how to cope without changing their mental state.
Persistent Distrust and Jealousy
Distrust and jealousy are two other very common red flags. Often, the red flag of a partner who is very insecure appears to be attentiveness at the beginning of the relationship, though there is often an underlying control problem hidden beneath the surface of this attention.
As the relationship progresses, it is easier to engage in some retrospection and reinterpret the constant attention or overbearing generosity you once received with desperate insecurity.
Mismatched Goals for the Relationship
If you are constantly arguing with your partner about your goals for the relationship, it could be a sincere sign that it is time to walk away. Though this is more of a personal issue that can be worked on than a red flag, it is certainly a red flag for the future of your relationship.
Controlling Personality
A partner that tries to control you in any way generally has some heavy personal issues that they have to process and work on. If your partner is trying to control who you talk to, who you see, how you spend your money, where you go, what your body looks like, what you do online, what you wear, and even what you eat, you seriously need to rethink your relationship and consider if it is worth it.
History of Cheating
Relationships are built on a foundation of trust, and if your partner has a history of infidelity, it is important that you proceed with caution. Even if they have demonstrated some degree of change, you have to ask yourself whether or not you feel comfortable continuing with the relationship with the knowledge that your partner has a history of cheating.
There are people who are not bothered by this, but if you are, then you must realize that this factor is going to influence your ability to have complete trust in your partner.
No Friends
If your partner struggles to form and maintain relationships, it could indicate that you will have a hard time connecting with them as well. Try to understand why your partner has had a hard time forming connections with others.
If they try to deflect, or if you discover a lack of drive or no personal culpability, then you will probably get that same treatment during your relationship with them.
They Have Stories of ‘Crazy Exes’
It is common for people to talk about their old flames, especially when we start to date a new person. However, you should pay close attention to the language that your potential lover uses when they are talking about the people they have dated in the past.
If they are describing their old flames as crazy rather than taking some of the responsibility for any craziness that might have existed, then there is quite a good chance that you might be the next ‘crazy ex’ to whoever your potential partner decides to date next.
Final Thoughts
These are just some of the red flags in a relationship with a man. Be on the lookout for these behaviors and patterns to ensure you are physically and emotionally safe in your relationship.